THIRTY METHODS OF INFLUENCE
We all want to have
positive influence with certain people in our personal and professional lives.
Our motives may be win new business, keep customers, maintain friendships,
change behavior, or improve marriage and family relations.
But how do we do it?
How do we powerfully and ethically influence the lives of others? There are
three basic categories of influence: 1) to model by example (other see); 2) to
build caring relationship (others feel); and 3) to mentor by instruction
(others hear).
Who you are and how you act
1.
Refrain from
saying the unkind or negative thing
2.
Exercise with
patience with others
3.
Distinguish
between person and the behavior of or performance
4.
Perform
anonymous service
5.
Choose the
proactive response
6.
Keep the
promises you make to others
7.
Focus on the
circle of influence
8.
Live the law of
love
Relationship: do you understand and care?
1.
Assume the best
of others
2.
Seek first to
understand
3.
Reward open
honest expression or question
4.
Give an
understanding response
5.
If offended take
the initiative
6.
Admit your
mistake, apologize, ask for forgiveness
7.
Let arguments
fly out open windows
8. Go one on one
9. Review your commitment to things you have in common
10. Be influence by them first
11. Accept the person and the situation
Instruction: what you tell me
1. Prepare your mind and heart before you prepare your
speech
2. Avoid fight or flight-talk through difference
3. Recognize and take time to teach
4. Agree on the limits, rules, expectations and
consequences
5. Don’t give up and don’t give in
6. Be there at the crossroads
7. Speak the language of logic and emotion
8. Delegate effectively
9. Involve people in meaningful projects
10. Train them in the law of the harvest
11. Let natural consequences teach responsible behavior
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